Back in High School I was faced with dealing with one of my
closest friends coming out and saying she was bisexual. I had heard rumors around school that she was
bisexual but I did not believe it because if you had really know her you would think it was crazy for her to like girls along with boys. I am not trying to call my friend a slut but
lets just say that she did not have trouble finding guys. But, when she finally told me over lunch; I
was shocked to find out that those rumors around school were indeed true. At first, I was in denial in the fact that she now liked girls along with boys. It was just so baffling to me but when she told me she was nervous to finally come out to everyone else. I knew that as a good friend I
needed to be there for her and accept who she had become. I just had wished
that some of our other friends were just as accepting as I was.
When she had finally told everyone that she was bi, some of
our friends stopped talking to her and would begin to talk about her behind her
back. You could tell that they now
looked at her in a different light. They
did not just look at her with judgment but they also began to look at me in a
different light. They thought that I was
so dumb for still being her friend and that I would turn into her but I told
them that I was disappointed in them. That I was now seeing what type of friends they truly
were. I told them that just because she like both boys and girls did not truly
change who she was. It wasn’t going to
change her personality or give you a disease or something stupid. I explained that she was still going to be our close friend from 6th grade. The friend that had been there for us when we going through a hard time or crack a funny joke here and there. Just because she had changed her sexual orientation did not mean she was changing who she was as a person. But, it didn't matter what I said to try and convince them because they had their minds set in not just being her friend but not being my friend either. Even
though it was hard to lose some of my close friends, I am glad that I stood up
for what I thought was right.
After reading your blog, I can tell that you are a good friend. I agree, just because someone may have different sexual orientations does not mean this changes them as a person. Disregarding their sexual preferences, they will have the same personality and attitude whether they are gay or straight. In society today, the topic of bisexuals and homosexuals can be a very controversial and it is not as accepted as many would hope it to be. For you to stick by her side even when your other friends were judging you for doing so, shows a lot about your personality. I think that you did a very admirable thing.
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